1. Health
Send to a Friend via Email

Discuss in my forum

An Autism Dad's Advice: Acceptance

By June 14, 2011

Adam is the father of a nonverbal four year old autistic boy and a relatively NT 2 year old, and has been "Married to my wonderful wife for 6 years."  Adam was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome about a year ago, and he remains in therapy for this.   Adam started his AutismOwl blog "as a means to focus my mind, and to cope with very difficult situations that I have with my children, and also with my sensory and agoraphobia problems. When I posted them on the web, I was surprised they made any sense to anybody."  Says Adam:  Enjoy!

autism dadI am the father of an 8 year old boy with Autism (Erik). What does it mean to me? Probably exactly the same for any other Dad of an 8 year old boy. The only difference is the Autism. The journey with Autism has certainly impacted on our lives but I find we have adapted as best we can and are making the absolute most of it.

Our key...... (well it works most of the time.) is as simple one of acceptance. We accept that this is the way it is. We do try and get the best for our children. (We also have a 6 year old girl Rachel) Through acceptance we moved on quickly to getting help. (What we could find at the time.) Getting help has made the difference. Early intervention is just so important. Having said that the road has been a difficult one at times.

Being a Dad I wish I had more--- patience more understanding more empathy with Erik. I feel I do ok but 'uno' would like to be better. However there are rules in any home and sometimes we have to lay down the law eh. This can be tricky with Autism sometimes.

Erik's worked so hard over the years and is doing so well. I am very proud of him. I do feel we are finding our way with Autism in our lives and a lot of the time Erik's commentary on life and the subjects of his interest are funny, thought provoking and innocent.  I feel we are at a point where there is far more in the way of laughter than tears.

Erik is a wonderful part of our lives. I am proud of my little man.


This is the second in a series of guest blogs by autism dads in celebration of Father's Day.

If you're an autism dad, or know one who would enjoy taking part in this celebration, please send me your essay before Friday, June 17th!

Comments
June 14, 2011 at 10:58 pm
(1) Sandy says:

Erik is one handsome 8 year old :) Thanks for that inspiring story.

June 15, 2011 at 4:12 pm
(2) Mike says:

Great story and what a handsome young man.

June 17, 2011 at 8:01 pm
(3) Sheila says:

I very much enjoyed your essay. My little nephew Jack has autism and the attitude you have adopted is the same one my brother and wife have taken. Also, I totally agree with your thoughts on early intervention.

Your sweet little boy is adorable! Much happiness to your family.

Leave a Comment

Line and paragraph breaks are automatic. Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title="">, <b>, <i>, <strike>

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.

We comply with the HONcode standard
for trustworthy health
information: verify here.