Tuesday November 26, 2013
For many years, for reasons that are somewhat obscure, there has been a rumor that 80% of couples with autistic children divorce. I decided to do a little research to determine whether that statistic holds any water.
I was absolutely amazed to learn that 64% of couples in the United States divorce! That statistic suggests that marriage, as a whole, is very fragile in today's world. Given that reality, why would families with autistic children fair better than anyone else? Wouldn't they find it even tougher to stay married?
In fact, of course, families with autistic children are under more stress than many other families. There's physical stress related to sleeplessness and -- in some cases -- loud noise, aggression, and other issues. There's financial stress when families decide to pay out of pocket for therapies. And there are disagreements about treatments, schooling, and other issues that become very significant when a child has a disability.
Still, though, you may be surprised to learn the answer to the question above: Does Autism in the Family Lead to Divorce?
Sunday November 24, 2013
I was a little worried about writing this particular article, as the subject can be a touchy one. No one wants to admit that a relative's autism embarrasses them, particularly when that relative is their own child, sibling, or grandchild. But in our society, any kind of a difference attracts negative attention -- and negative attention does, for many of, lead to embarrassment. Take a look at this article and see whether it describes you (at least some of the time!). If so, you may find some of the suggestions are helpful!
Saturday November 23, 2013
Over the last few weeks, I've received notes from several well-intentioned people who seemed to have very little understanding of what autism is -- and what it isn't. And so I wrote this article describing 8 fairly common misconceptions about autism! The bottom line: every person with autism is unique!
Have you run across folks who seem to have only the sketchiest idea of what autism really is? Share your experience!
Saturday November 23, 2013
As you've probably figured out, there really is no "perfect preschool." But within a month after diagnosis with something called "PDD-NOS," Tom was in a good place. It wasn't until I was drinking coffee with another special needs mom, though, that I learned "PDD-NOS" was actually a form of autism -- and that kids with autism have all sorts of services available to them. Whether they need them or not. I also learned a lot more about Jewish tradition, and the pleasures of eating challah once a week!
Part Four: "The Perfect Preschool"
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