In mythologizing recovery, I fear we've set an impossibly high bar that's left the parents of a half-million autistic children feeling like failures....I don't mean to sound pessimistic about the prospects for autistic children. On the contrary, I see greater optimism in delivering a more realistic message to families: Children are not cured, but they do get better.
If nothing else, stories of "recovery" managed by parents who have given up everything for their child can lead to overwhelming guilt. "If only we had moved to X place nearer to Dr. Y... or tried yet another therapy... or mortgaged our home for that special school... it might have made all the difference!"
In my article These Top Ten Tips for Handling Guilt I address some of the guilt-inspiring messages that parents handle every day. But how do you handle the pressure of the media, the internet and well-meaning friends who have yet another "must try" therapy, "must read" book, or "must invest" resource?