Mental Health Neurodevelopmental Disorders Autism Support and Tips Can Autistic People Live a "Normal" Life? By Lisa Jo Rudy Updated on July 20, 2023 Medically reviewed by Brigid Dwyer, MD Print Table of Contents View All Table of Contents Transition to Adulthood Education Employment Living Arrangements Independent Living Resources and Support Parents who have an autistic child commonly wonder if they can lead a "normal" life. If that means being independent and otherwise living like neurotypical people, there is no simple answer. Some have traits of mild autism while others face more challenges and have higher support needs. The differences can greatly affect what everyday life may look like. With that said, many autistic children learn to live on their own, get jobs, have children, and more. Others can cook, clean, and care for themselves with some assistance. Your child's healthcare team can help you gauge reasonable expectations. This article explains how to assess an autistic child's potential for independent living. It also outlines what is involved in transitioning to independent living, if that's an option, including the avenues and resources for education and employment. Caiaimage / Robert Daly / Getty Images Planning for the Transition to Adulthood If your child is still little, planning for the transition to adulthood may seem premature. But since the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) only provides services to autistic people through age 21, you'll need to begin transition planning by at least age 16. This allows you to use your child's Individualized Education Plan (IEP) to set goals for every aspect of adult life—including vocational training, postsecondary education, employment, and independent living—and ensure their school helps prepare them to achieve the appropriate goals. By starting early, you can also ensure your child receives the proper assessments of their existing skills, strengths, and needs, including: Vocational testing to assess job-related aptitudes and interestsEducational testing, including the functional use of spoken and written language and mathCommunity-based skills assessment to evaluate their ability to function independently outside of the homeAdaptive living skills assessment to evaluate their ability to function independently on a daily basis inside the home An IEP Plan for Transitioning to Adulthood Education Planning If college is part of your child's future, you will need to make sure they get a high school diploma or a general education diploma (GED). An IEP diploma is not recognized by institutions of higher education. You will also need to prepare and arrange for your child to take the Scholastic Aptitude Test (SAT) and American College Testing Program (ACT) tests. In addition, some colleges may require IQ or achievement test scores for your child to receive accommodations under section 504 of the Vocational Rehabilitation Act (VRA). When preparing for post-secondary education, there are a number of options to consider: Inquire about dual enrollments. This allows your child to take college courses while still in high school.Contact local autism organizations. They can usually provide you with a list of colleges that offer support for autistic students.Keep your options open. Depending on your child's aptitude and interests, you may want to consider vocational schools, community colleges, technical institutes, state schools, liberal arts colleges, or online courses.Investigate. Take time to meet with the Disability Services Office (DSO) of prospective colleges to find out what documentation is required for enrollment and what special accommodations are provided for autistic students.Start building a support structure. Ask the school to help connect you to other autistic students as well as their families. 13 Tips for Autistic Students Entering College Employment Finding a regular paying job can be tough, especially for autistic people. Luckily, more businesses are recognizing the value of recruiting and hiring autistic adults, including Ernst and Young, Freddie Mac, Microsoft, Rising Tide, SAP, Walgreens, and others. Even so, challenges remain. Autistic people typically undergo more stringent testing and evaluations than coworkers without autism. They also may require extra support to deal with traits that can impede job performance, including: Difficulty communicatingInflexibility (rigidity in routines)Social anxietySensory challengesDifficulty collaborating with othersDifficulty coping with criticism If you start early, you can work with your child's school counselor to determine the best career for your child based on vocational testing and aptitude tests. Knowing this information ahead of time can help you plan for training, internships, and vocational opportunities. 10 Facts About Autism and Employment Living Arrangements Planning for and creating an ideal living arrangement for an autistic child is complex and time-consuming, so again, preparation is key. This will also help ensure that your child's educational program is crafted to support these future living arrangements. Start by asking yourself: Where would my child thrive? Is an urban or suburban environment better? What type of support do they need? While options vary from state to state, living arrangements for autistic adults may include: Living at home with family Housing unit programs Group homes Dorm-style facilities Living with roommates Living independently with a remote support network of family and friends Your local school district or state agency is a great place to start when looking for state-run residential facilities for autistic adults. You can also consult your local autism support group for local referrals and listings. When evaluating living arrangements, you may need to consider whether the following support programs are readily accessible: Health services coordination Medication administration Behavioral and mental health support Career support Community integration support Social opportunities Respite care Independent Living Skills Helping your child live a "normal" adult life (in this case, defined as one in which they are independent in all aspects of daily living) means that they will need to be able to get dressed, take a bus to work, go to the movies, meet new friends, etc. These skills can take time to develop. By having your child assessed early, you can ensure that the following independent living skills are part of their educational process: Life skills, including using the toilet, dressing, and eating Functional skills, to manage daily tasks like shopping, catching the bus, or scheduling appointments Leisure or recreational skills, such as going to the library or engaging in group sports Job and vocational skills, including time management and interacting with coworkers Social or interpersonal skills, including social, job, and romantic interactions Technology skills, including using a smartphone or making an online purchase Independent Living Skills for Autistic Teens Resources and Support While financial resources are available for families living with autism, they are generally limited and extremely competitive. It's helpful to learn about the support programs and available resources in your community. This can include low-cost transportation, meal services, and volunteers willing to help with inclusion in arts programs, sports, or other activities. On the federal level, the agencies providing support include: Administration on Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities (AIDD), which focuses on residential support, transportation, transition planning, employment, and respite care Division of Vocational Rehabilitation (DVR), a state-administered program that focuses on job counseling, preparation, and training Supplemental Security Income (SSI), which may provide financial assistance and Medicaid health coverage to those who qualify Many families also turn to their local religious communities for emotional and spiritual support. Encouraging your child to volunteer in the community or to stay socially connected to other autistic people can also help set the foundation for independent living. 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Services for adults with autism spectrum disorder: a systems perspective. Curr Psychiatry Rep. 2020;22(3):13. doi:10.1007/s11920-020-1136-7 Additional Reading Roux AM, Shattuck PT, Rast JE, Rava JA, et. al. National autism indicators report: Transition into young adulthood. Philadelphia, PA: Life Course Outcomes Research Program, A.J. Drexel Autism Institute, Drexel University. By Lisa Jo Rudy Lisa Jo Rudy, MDiv, is a writer, advocate, author, and consultant specializing in the field of autism. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Medical Expert Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Other Helpful Report an Error Submit