Marital Advice Requested From Men with Autism
Friday July 18, 2008
If you're a man with autism, you're certainly the right person to answer this question, submitted by a reader who is married to a man on the autism spectrum:
Do you have issues with inititating sexual contact with the woman you love? If so, what can your partner do to make sexual intimacy easier and more fulfilling?Any suggestions would be wonderful - especially since this is an area of concern for many otherwise-happy married couples!
Note: I'm not intending to exclude same-sex relationships here - it just so happens I heard from a woman about her male partner. If you have related advice for gay/lesbian partners of people on the spectrum, that's very welcome too.
Comments
I prefer role playing. So if he has a hyperbaric oxygen chamber just lying around, for instance, I would suggest that you dress up in a revealing Nazi U-boat uniform and crawl in the chamber and wait. Sooner or later he will want to know if you are still alive, and when he looks in the chamber, yell “Up Periscope!” But not too loud because you might hurt his ears.
I bumped my head against the computer monitor while laughing so hard reading the first comment. The visual it gave me will stick in my mind forever! LOL. I’m still laughing. And crying!
:-) She might also try playing a science fiction TV-series theme-music inside the HBOT tank, he might look in to find out if she’s watching episode 5 from the 3rd season, or if it’s episode 9 from the 2nd season.
She might learn to say endearing things in Klingon….
Sexual intimacy with autistic men is risky, due to the extra high levels of mercury, lead, antimony and aluminum in our bodies. The mercury is particularly troublesome - as our body temperatures rise, as it might during sexual arousal, the column of mercury in our spinal fluid expands and rises, which badly affects our balance and coordination. That’s why I no longer go to exotic dance lounges, or the zoo.